Building a Support Community Through Every PCS

Community is defined as a group of people living in the same place or having a particular characteristic in common. What’s our common characteristic? Military life—the uncertainty, uprooting, new friendships, and constant change.

Continually restarting and rebuilding a military support community can feel daunting, especially if you’ve just relocated or are living in a civilian-dominated area. But fostering connections with people who understand military life is not only rewarding—it’s essential for emotional and practical support.

For me, it’s the people who will sit on my couch on New Year’s Eve watching the Taylor Swift Eras Tour while my husband is deployed. It’s those who have become more than just co-workers—they’ve become family. My community has seen me at my best and when I fall short, brought our family a hot meal after having a baby, cheered me on through my fitness goals, and stepped up when I needed it most.

But how can you find community? How can you get plugged in?

If you’re near a base, tap into resources like the Military and Family Readiness Centers, local USOs, or even fitness classes on base. Many installations also host events like picnics, spouse meet-ups, or community volunteer opportunities to help get to know others.

For those living far from an installation, determine if National Guard or Reserve units are nearby. These locations often serve as hubs for military families and veterans.

Also, online platforms are a game-changer for military families. Search for local or regional military spouse Facebook groups, veteran support forums, or Instagram communities. Apps like Military OneSource can connect you with resources specific to your area and platforms like Wives of the Armed Forces can help you meet others online and in person while also providing unique insights about military life as a spouse.

Non-profit organizations like the Military Spouse Advocacy Network or Blue Star Families offer virtual support and often have local chapters.

Another great way to get involved is by joining your local AFA chapter. As an AFA member, you can plug into local initiatives while also remaining connected to the broader AFA mission.

Even if there’s no military base nearby, there are likely other military-connected individuals in your area. Attend community events, volunteer, or join local organizations— military families often stand out and are eager to connect with others who share their experiences.

Building a community takes effort, but a simple coffee date or text can be the start of a meaningful friendship.

Can’t find what you’re looking for? Build it yourself! Start a small meet-up for military spouses, veterans, or even Active-duty members. Local social media groups or community boards, online and physical, can help you spread the word.

Your group can focus on anything—fitness, parenting, career development, or just socializing. The key is to keep it welcoming and inclusive.

The military community thrives on mutual support that often happens in the small moments. Offer to help a new family unpack, babysit during a deployment, or simply lend a listening ear. Generosity fosters strong bonds and encourages others to pay it forward.

Building a military support community won’t happen overnight, but every step you take—meeting one new person, attending one event—builds upon the last. Even in the most uncomfortable moments, it is worth it to be vulnerable in a situation where others are likely feeling the same way. Celebrate these milestones and trust that your network will grow over time. Whether you’re stationed in a bustling military town or a quiet suburb, you have the tools to create a thriving support system. Remember, no matter where you are, you’re not alone, and the military community is always just a conversation away.

This article was written by Savannah Stephens, an Air Force Reserve Public Affairs Officer and Department of the Air Force Civilian. You can read Savannah’s full bio and the complete edition of United Forces & Families ENGAGE: United Through Community here.